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Marilyn Simon's avatar

A few years ago, a dear friend of mine was dying (pancreatic cancer of the worst sort). Visiting her in the hospital sometimes meant she'd be alert and awake for a chat, but often it just meant sitting beside her as she rested. One time she woke up and saw me beside her. She just smiled softly and closed her eyes. I thought she had gone back to sleep, but then she started talking. "I feel like I'm falling," she said. "Like I'm falling and falling and I'm scared of hitting the bottom. But I also feel like the falling is like being held, like there are hands holding me so that I won't hit the bottom, but they're also the hands that keep me falling." I sat there quietly for a few moments, not quite knowing what to say in response, if anything. "I don't want to die," she continued. "I'm scared. I just want to keep falling and being held."

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Armand Fredrick's avatar

Be careful, reading too much Ratzinger might just bring you across the tiber:)

I have a close friend who's wife is pregnant with a child conceived by IVF.

He and I do not dare discuss the matter as he knows where I stand

I think the IVF debate is almost the perfect test case re mans desires over nature.

On one side you have a man, hands in the air, trying to conceive a child with his wife...the most primordial of volitional acts, the furtherance of the dna, the achievement of the bodily telos of reproduction..and yet his will is circumscribed, seemingly, by fate.

Or is it?

We have designed means by which to "create" or facilitate to a large degree, life creation(in the end the miracle of sperm and egg creating new life of course remains).

What are the consequences of my friend engaging in said pursuit?

Life is hard after all, we have been given a means to ameliorate the difficulties that nature confronts us with.

We build houses to keep out the harshness of the elements, we make babies in test tubes in order to solve another problem we are presented with by the cruel hand of fate.

It is powerful logic, especially when confronted by the reality of the wonderful child that I am sure will transform my friends life in a love hitherto not experienced.

My cousin did the same due to testicular cancer and now has beautiful twins who have been the light of his life.

And yet.

And yet what is forgotten, or obscured when we rush into this mysterious cave with out headlamps on full blast?

I am so grateful that the Church has provided me/us with a different view of these sacred mysteries.

A view of the human person that both acknowledges the sufferings he must endure(infertility etc) and yet is able at the same time to ascribe a dignity, a wholeness to human life that rests upon the great mysterious substrate of reality-the generative love of God.

The thing is, we owe this mystery, we have a duty greater than we have to our earthly parents to understand what we are, what we may do and what we must never do.

I think in the fundament it is that we are not the author of life.

We are not machines of our own making.

That is the beauty of your reflection here Matthew, that if we accept no boundary to our voluntas then we end up as human robots, not human beings.

We abolish ourselves in our search to control.

I give lectures locally ostensibly about happiness(the happiness framing puts butts in the seat) my only project really is to make an argument that things have a nature, that we did not invent this nature but are the kind of things that can discover it(as we share some elements with its creator) and while we have some purview for action within this created order we do not have final purview.

That is reserved for the creator Himself.

Any efforts that can be made at the restoration of a humilitas around such is to be encouraged and welcomed. Your contribution with this series is greatly appreciated. Have a great trip and I look forward to your next musings.

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